Becoming a mom always comes with question marks and anxiety especially surrounding the health and development of our children. For someone who has dealt with postpartum depression and anxiety, it is a constant internal struggle of when to bring my sick baby to the doctor and when I might be overreacting a little bit. For the first two years of my daughters’ life, every single month I had those thoughts and so many questions. Does she really have a fever? Is she teething? She’s a daycare baby and probably caught a cold, is it an ear infection?
Just like all first-time parents, we are being bombarded with information about how we need to parent and it’s coming from everyone: our doctors, family, friends, and now people I have never met. It’s interesting because some people that I haven’t spoken to in years have been reaching out and messaging me as well. Most of the conversations end up discussing things that I can and cannot do during pregnancy and things that I need to do to or not to, to make sure baby is healthy when they’re here. What I noticed was that there’s a lot of advice around buying more things for babies. Every problem is solved by another purchase.
Conor’s graduation day seemed like it was ages away. Every year we’d feel a little better about having more time and years behind us and we were moving closer and closer to the finish line: graduation.
When the pandemic hit, my husband was just about to match into his residency program, so he’s a full-time medical student and I am a full time working mom. I’m the Marketing Coordinator at a nonprofit that aims to end homelessness in Philadelphia. I am fortunate enough that as businesses were closing, and daycares were closing their doors, I didn’t lose my job. Our nonprofit was able to stay open and all employees that could, would work remotely from home. For my husband, the call came and his rotations were canceled and he had to begin working remotely as well but doing modules.
It’s been a long four years, more for my husband than myself but it feels like it’s been ages. This is the week that all fourth-year medical students have been waiting for. It’s Match week and today is Match Monday. Match Monday is the day fourth years find out if they matched to a residency, the next step in the journey of becoming a doctor and on Friday, you find out where exactly you’re going. If you do not match on Monday, you’re given an opportunity to spend the few days interviewing and connecting with residencies that have slots open.
The lead up to this week is so stressful and depending on what an email says on Monday decides if it becomes even more so.
This is the blog post every new mom writes and even though I’ve read hundreds of these, I will always read new ones that I find. I think it’s so interesting what everyone feels is a must have for their baby and what truly helped them adjust to parenthood. The items I chose to include were really the only things that we used for the first three months of her life and they were all items that I knew I wanted and would use. I tried to be mindful of the items I was purchasing for her because I still want to make sure that I’m getting items that will be reusable with another child, are better for the environment, can be used for a longer period of time or for more than one purpose.